Why should God exist

I personally don't know or cant prove whether God exists or not. Irritated by those who take God as an excuse for their inability, I have chosen God to be related to all those good and nice things that exist, good deeds done, unconditional love, anything and everything good within and around us.I see God even in music.. in its healing power.This not only seems to be rational ( others usually don't attach logic to God) but always helps me refrain from hurting others or my own self in the name of God.. ex.. few traditional beliefs demands life sacrifice,breaking coconuts on your head etc..

There are people who ruin their life with their own stupid choices and wash their hands off later when their decisions fail blaming it on Gods will.These are people who give love to some unknown unseen power called God than sharing it with fellow humanbeings who suffer and rot everyday in this mean materialistic world. God, according to these people, will take care of those people who are actually their responsibility.

The way people treat God, if they treat their fellow beings, life would be better off for them and those around them.They dont blame God if something bad happens to them, they spend time with God, they offer him gifts, they love him unconditionally, they
confide in him. Isn't this what all human beings need or crave for from their loved ones?

Now, whether we believe or not, having faith/fear in God always helps.I am not sure how many of those who claim to have faith in God really believe in his/her( well, there sure IS a probability of God being Her.. isn't it.. though conventionally its been otherwise) existence. Faith has a condition attached to it. Not to question. It has to be unconditional. For, when you are really lonely, desperate and helpless
with no one to look up to, you have God! And you always have him unlike those people around you who claim to love and care for you but are not there when you actually need them. To top it all, God is conveniently invisible. The omnipotent God is someone who needs to be felt, not seen. Now how favorable that can be to a desperate soul. He doesn't need proof.. he just has to believe that there is someone. It gives a lot of help, relief and peace.On the other hand, if its fear as against faith, that helps too. It forces people to be good, stay away from the bad.

It all depends on the perspective. We always have a choice.. to see the good from bad, to chose to help than ignore, to smile instead of sulk, to see light in darkness, to believe in the goodness in us than feeling unworthy and desperate, to put the devil to sleep and awaken the Godliness within.. Its in all these and more that God exists..rather should exist. Todays world needs him.

SlipTripSmokeEngine

Check this mans orkut profile and you will have all his friends talk about his flipping tripping and slipping episodes. Healthy by all means, though he abuses it by constantly smoking, this man needs no reason to slip and trip.. not even a banana peel. He will be walking right in front of you and the next moment he is gone..if you look for him, you will find him on the floor either with a sheepish grin if he isn't hurt much or writhing in pain if hurt. He tries to put up a brave face but being fair skinned, there is no way he can hide the pain as all the blood in his body rushes to his face and people easily can spot it. He falls so often that people get used to it over time. If someone is standing next to him and laughing out loud looking at him, the spectator assumes that Humpty Dumpty has had his big fall again.

Though the above portrays a very funny picture, he is the most intelligent, understanding and friendly personality I have ever come across. Sometimes I feel that he deliberately makes others laugh at him to make them feel comfortable. Same time there is this dignity level he maintains and no one can cross the boundary or take him for granted.

There is also this sincerity with which he does things that you might find him replying "Glad to meet you too" when someone in the church seated to his left/right shakes his hands and says "Peace be with you".Well, our man is hard of hearing( or shall I say poor listening skills) at times and that was his first visit to the Church.

He owns a mobile but uses it like how someone uses the landline. And whenever he dares to keep it mobile he loses it . You give him a call he returns it after ages. But call it coincidence or miracle, he is always there to cheer you up when you desperately need a friend.

Readers.. you are wrong if you feel I got only good things to say about this man.. but guess what.. today is his Birthday. I wouldn't have mentioned this in my blog if not for his suggestion that I need to keep my blog bit more personal. Happy Birthday buddy!!!!!!! and quit smoking yaar.. I don't think you want a sequel to SlipTripSmokeEngine highlighting the other side.. lol.. Enjoy your day and continue bringing smiles to all those near and dear to you. May you be blessed with a
long life full of fun, happiness, love and peace.

Ads ads everywhere

One of my ex managers at work used to say that promoting and using products like Fair and Lovely is equivalent to spreading racism. . He has no need to take it out on those fair skinned people as he doesn't need it anyways. Everyone adores him for his intelligence and also for the way he carries himself. He hasn't said this out of frustration but with a sane mind and good reasoning

Except for such people who can think logically, most of the dark skinned population is lured towards using such products in their desperateness to gain attention and become beautiful/ lovely/handsome forever. But can how can beauty be related to the color of your skin??

The business world selling such products was targeting only women earlier. Now its the mens turn. Only difference is that a guy rejected because he is dark will not accept the girl after he becomes fair on using the beauty product however a girl shall always be happy to accept the guy who rejected her earlier as she was dark.. like a dignity less punk ..even someone as beautiful as Asin or Priyanka Chopra.. Ridiculous. I am surprised how even actress who are known for their dark but dusky and lovely complexion promote fairness. They aren't being fair.. are they?

Forget ads, comedy tracks in movies are based on the color of the skin. I have even heard certain objections, faintly though, being raised for mocking people who are physically/ mentally challenged but this is equally worse. Even comedy actor Vivek whose tracks usually tries to evoke some social awareness and thinking , makes fun of the the two daughters of the dark skinned Solomon Paapaya( a renowned scholar and a very popular and influential person) and for who.. on behalf of our Super star Rajinikanth.I personally am a huge fan of his but is this the message he is trying to convey to his fan following? Tamil cinema accepts heroes who are dark skinned,not conventionally beautiful but scripts stories where "beautiful" heroines fall for them after identifying their inner beauty. The vice versa never happens. I guess in reality its different. I know of lot of my friends who like, adore, respect and love women not for their external beauty but for certain characteristics, behaviour and inner personality.

I understand its difficult for everyone to be too good to say that they see beauty in everyone and its the beauty within that matters. But how can we be so conveniently( but unfortunately in reality) ignorant and give up to the gimmicks played by those promoting consumerism some way or the other. In this age of reality shows, glittery glossy ads and movies,its difficult for the youth to identify what is actually "real" and they are so vulnerable.

For those who have some patience and want to gain some inputs on why we are seeing such changes, who is gaining and who is losing, a must read/ watch is http://www.thestoryofstuff.com. Though not completely in relation to what we are discussing here, this video is an eye opener for those who are asleep and those pretending to as well. Thanks to one of my friends who shared the info ( http://erramya.blogspot.com/)

So when did u know its love ???

That is the punch line or story line of the movie Jaane thu ya Jaane na. I am not going to talk about the movie here other than that its a cute, fun filled, commercial but decent movie where most of them have done justice to their jobs and roles. Its the story line that caught my attention. Excellent timing and apt for the generation

The group especially ones born after 1980, has this major problem seeing the line between Friendship and Love and puts itself thru a lot of trouble.I have seen both guys and girls go thru this.The permutation and combination of relationships that come out of it is really amazing but funny at the same time.

Few combos include -Its only the girl or guy who thinks its love or who thinks its friendship... Or both the girl and guy think its friendship but its " actually' love( like in Jaane thu)... or they both think its love but its friendship in reality.. or the guy/ girl thinks its love but prefer to continue it as friendship as Love leads to complications.There is also this lot that sacrifices love to retain friendship and so on..( like in Kadhal desam) Good Lord...this can be endless. poor youth of today.. they have so much to get confused about..on top of that we have the Parents.. who are also confused as to what extent they need to control or decide with respect to this fact.

There are a lot of movies made on this subject... Add external inputs to the theory like a another guy or girl other than the lead, which forms a triangle love story, or Parents, then the variety is endless. Common factor is the confused state of mind and the pain.

Whats the solution? Honesty I would say. People here are so much used to having something in mind and saying something else( for intentions good or bad) be it in official or personal life. Everyone tries to be diplomatic and wants to be nice to everyone though in reality they don't want to. As time passes, reality bites and there are heart burns,blame games, manipulation, indecisiveness, and depression. When someone really likes/dislikes someone or loves/hates someone they hesitate speaking about it. Other hand, they speak about something which isn't true just because its the trend. A guy " needs" to have a girl friend and I guess
the vice versa is also true these days else they stand alone in a crowd.

"I love you" has been so commonly used that you say it to anyone right from your doggy to your spouse. Its actually good to express your love...if the relationship is already well defined then there is no confusion but in other cases it causes problems. "I meant I like you not love you, I said I love you but not in those terms, I said I love you but not that I want to marry you.." - could be certain manipulations

So.. Guys and girls.. when you know its love..say it.. whenever you really love someone.But dont... when you actually dont..

Gender bias

With just about 7 years since I started to work, I have been “successful” in building a excellent career in terms of position and monetary benefits. I am single and my Parents support me a lot when it comes to work .They don’t mind if I work odd or late hours despite belonging to a rather conservative family, society and city. Mom does occasionally crib about my “lack of interest” in cooking and other house hold chores

Within such a short span of time and with as much favorable climate around, there have been so many problems and difficulties that I have faced at work and at home ( caused because I work) the root cause being my gender. There are a lot of questions that I have raised to myself every now and then but ignored as need of the hour then would have been to face another problem and not analyze and/or find answers. Few include

1. Do working women have more freedom and independence than those who are house wives ( women who actually do more work at home than us)
2. Do women face more challenges at work than men?
3. Given a choice, how many of us would resolve to be at home and look after husband and kids than otherwise. Which is easier and suitable?
4. Have we landed out there in the deep blue sea because we didn’t want to face the devil. If yes, how good are we at swimming and how equipped are we to face the tsunamis and the sharks?
5. How many of us would drop the job once the need had been fulfilled though the passion towards work still remained?
6. Do hikes and/or promotions become a nightmare than being a cherished moment, because of comments from colleagues that it was easy because of the gender
7. How many have faced complete insubordination from your team member or complete non co operation from your peer because of “why should I listen to a lady” types of opinion
8. How many of you have been branded as “dominating” though you have been as flexible and nice as possible?
9. How many of you found it easy to get the tasks done because you are a woman
10. How many have been ridiculed for inability in understanding electricity and hardware ? or for not being able to change gears in your vehicle as easily and efficiently as men do?
11. How many of you had to face the frown from elders and relatives because you couldn’t attend a function or a gathering because you had to be at work that time?
12. How many of you got laurels at work and love from family without you having to sacrifice one for other?
13. Why is that after a point all those women prefer to “work from home”?

In short are women working because they want to or is it because the men out there alone couldn’t manage it all by themselves in this fast world. How many are working because your family and society “allows’ you to work or “needs” you to work? Till date I feel that if there were no financial need in the family at the time I started I might not have stepped out to work, either because life is smooth and easier ( in conventional terms) otherwise or because my family may not be that happy with that option.

Job hunt

When I read articles published on how corporates are aiming at using the net resources to pool in candidates I did believe that probably they are finding it too difficult or that they are trying to make the most of the resources available. Moving from job sites like Naukri or Monster companies were trying to source people from Orkut!!! I don't have an account in Orkut and for a moment I felt bad for not being a big fan of online social networking. For the first time, I decided to do little bit more than a glance at Hindu opportunities. I registered myself in few well known job sites and vigorously put in applications. Response - almost nil except for a few auto response. After waiting for about three to four weeks I decided to call those whose numbers were published on either the job posting or on their website. Invariably, all of them asked me to forward my Resume again and to a different email id. Why on earth do they post online then. I was also surprised to see that there can be as many as 1250 applicants for a particular posting.

Mistake can be at either sides. Applicants hardly see the relevance of jobs and go for "easy apply" options the moment they see an opening. This might mean that out of 100 resumes that a company might receive only 2 or 3 might be kinda relevant. This having been the trend, posting a vacany on the job site might have become just a ritual for the employers with no actual effort taken to reap its benefits.

On the other side I came across few job posts ( from reputed institutions and big names in the industry) that were quite funny. One asked for candidates who have " experience in all call center training activities including ACTION TRAINING" I didn't know that Call centers needed stunt masters in addition to accent trainers for their employees

If this is the case with job sites, here is my experience when I attended an interview through a consultant for a reputed BPO in town. After filling all information thats available in my Resume once again in a form that was given by the Interviewer, I sat for the first round with an HR Executive. I had applied for a position in Quality and probably it was the company norm that the HR executive ask some questions relevant to the role. " What Matrix have you used in the previous organization" was one question that was thrown after the conventional " tell me something about yourself " type of questions. The only Matrices that I was aware of were the ones that I learned about arrays and structures in my 8th standard math and another one which is the famous movie . At that point, I felt there might have been some method to measure Quality using a Matrix or that such a structure is deployed in the process. I accepted my ignorance. I saw the smile on her face - satisfaction coupled with sarcasm and also a proud look that implied she knew much better than me and probably I am not fit enough for the role or worse,a conclusion that the experience that I have claimed to have in quality isn't reliable. Further questions from her revealed that she had meant " Metrics" and not "Matrix". Well, I am to be blamed. Having applied for a position in call center I must have had good listening skills and an open mind that will help me see variations on account of pronunciation accent and jargons.
who is the loser? First I felt it was me however later I convinced myself that my job would have been really difficult at such places. Still, Shouldn't corporates focus on what impression they want to create on candidates during Interviews and be a bit careful about it.

Better late than never

I have always been slow in picking up with the pace of technological advancements, in using/abusing or exploiting the options offered by it. I was the last one to buy a cell phone, to get a PC and a net connection amidst my circle of friends, companions, relatives and colleagues. I
still "write" letters to few of my friends than choosing to email them. Like after a point of time you got to sail along with the tide when you get tired swimming against it for no obvious reasons (or just because swimming against the tide is your nature)... I change my ways but only after some time. I have offered lots of lectures on change management to my team but who says you need to practice what you preach...

Well, one of the main reasons why I finally have chosen to blog is that I have ample of time in hand and dont find anything better to do. I do respect bloggers and there are many atimes when I have found what I wanted in the blogs than anywhere else on the net. Catch here is, there might not be anything as useful in mine. However, I do see it as a way to share my thoughts and experiences and let people know that they are not the only one in the world going thru such circumstances.. if not for a "social cause" a place where you can vent out, go jab jab or ramble with no one to question.

What I am going to write about? thats still a question.. probably I will speak aloud, write few things which I might share with a friend of mine whom I meet after a long time or just about anything that can be shared without hurting others and hurting my own self. I dont have strong opinions or advice to offer ( there are lot others who do it for free and voluntarily these days). There might be lot of complaints as I am an excellent fault finder and I am known for being pessimistic.